Friday, August 9, 2013

Morality....Virginity....Why all the Tags for Girls...???

Is virginity a test for girls only..... i am listening this thing from the time of ramayana where sita ws asked to give the agnipariksha..i ask everyone why it is the girl who is questioned everytym..what if the guy is nt virgin too bt he wants a gal who is totally pure.. what kind off sick mentality is that..on one hand we talk of equality n on the other we make the rules for girls only..if a girl is called a 'slut' if shes nt virgin then what we should call a guy if he is the  same..? 
grow up guys.. pls b sensible enough.. dont get modernised frm d way you dress or speak..b modern frm ur thoughts n your mentality.......
May be it's time for the girls to ask boys if he's pure enough to stand her side for the lifetime.

Why can't a girl ask for the same, when the other one wants to ask, it might solve a bit of the issue.
I've got friends, who've got 3-4 girlfriends and vice-versa? why, well the solution lies in the answer if you can provide one, you can go on to blame the westernism, sexism, pornism and ever xism for your point to prove what the issue might be, but what the hell solution can be. 
The solution lies in somewhat not about our glorified past culture (well, what I see today, the past was beautiful, peoples were human) but what are we actually doing it today with ourselves? bhedchaal, education (that somewhat I feel is not worth enough for a average guy to even get a good salaried job for what he/she is capable of), , internet, restrictions, blind eyes, live for myself, too much of religionism maybe?
Bang on!!!  Welcome to the progressive India where we claim to be modern people but still make Virginity a base to check a girl’s morals or her capability to become a good wife.  Today when we claim that women have an equal status in the society with that of men, we still are under the orthodox views of using a white bed sheet on the first night of marriage just to check the bride’s virginity!!! The guy may himself have slept with number of girls but he wants a “pure”, “untouched” girl as a wife. Why? Answer-just to satisfy his male ego that the girl he is going to spend his life with has been and will be only his “possession”.
Just for the info, male, have been in love, but still a virgin !! 

And I am forced to wonder that what would happen to those rape victims? Who would marry those girls? Moreover being from a sports background, I have always been told by those orthodox distant relatives to Quit it, why? because playing may result in breakage of the “moral wall”!! 
If today a girl loses her virginity with a guy she loves truly but the guy turns out to be a cheat then she is tagged as a “slut”, “characterless girl” ; MIND YOU these being the most decent words I can pen down ,else there are a million more worse words in our mother tongue vocabulary. I ask what is the mistake of the girl?  She loved a guy? She slept with someone she thought she would marry? Or, she now has lost her purity which would satisfy her to-be husband’s male ego and make him believe that she is fit to be his wife! And again no answers I could get!!!!! 
Yes, I am also a girl, an Indian girl, who values her morals, for whom her “izzat” is priceless, who has always dreamt of her “raajkumar” coming on a white horse to marry her,  and who has always planned her wedding dress! But I am also a girl who belongs to the globalisedworld, interacts with the opposite sex, loves, has break ups, overcomes them and smiles again and no one has a right to tag me any thingfor that reason! I just request you that next time you go looking for a girl for marriage, search for a true heart and not something like “pure ghee”, because she ‘s gonna be your life partner and not your meal to satisfy your hunger of ego...........

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